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The Secret of Maintaining a Slim Figure

I think in the US we’re led to believe that some women across the world naturally stay slim and it’s genetic. Unfortunately, to those of us born in the states, our genes must have mutated and now we all carry the fat gene. Can that really be true, even if our ancestors hailed from these magical lands of effortlessly slim people?

Of course it’s not true.

No one’s genes mutated. What changed are our daily habits and what’s considered normal here in the states versus abroad.

1) Walking- people in places who walk more stay healthier

2) fruits/vegetables/meat/fish – yes people in France and Italy love bread and desserts but it’s quality over quantity.

I read “French Women Don’t Get Fat” in college and it really changed the way I view food. It’s not our enemy but our life long love affair. We must eat to survive and we can choose to love the food we make.

3) We don’t eat enough soup- many cultures value eating soup for a meal or for a weekend to slim down after a particularly voracious week of eating.

4) Less soda, beer, and empty calories

5) Movement beyond Walking- walking is a part of daily life to get from point A to point B. On Google maps, you can choose a car, bus, or walk! That’s right, even Google maps considers walking a mode of transportation.

Therefore to maintain an ideal shape you must walk and put in some effort a couple of days a week with either light resistance weights, yoga, pilates, etc….

That’s it, it’s not a big secret. Unfortunately, we don’t want to give up our bad habits and we would rather take a short cut. Short cuts don’t last and on and on yo yo dieting goes.

The fitness industry has to be a 10 billion dollar industry these days, maybe more ?

If it worked so well then why are there new methods every day? Doesn’t make sense to me.

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Consistency: Why I love and loathe consistency

There are so many things that I love to be consistent…my morning coffee, my work schedule, my employees always showing up on time, my fiance making me quinoa or rice for dinner.

I don’t want to sound hypocritical right off the bat so let me say that I am very consistent at certain things like work. I rarely take a sick day, I keep to my hours and try to be the best leader.

However, there are dream projects that I’ve started and stopped over the years, like this blog and of course it’s gone nowhere. Am I surprised? Of course not but do I know where other people who started around the same time as me have taken theirs, yes I am painfully aware.

It’s not even the satisfaction of success, I feel satisfied in other areas and this didn’t need to be one of them. I’m not trying to escape my practice, I love it. But I do love the idea of consistently putting forth an effort on a hobby that I believe benefits others.

I was reading something my uncle, Sam Crowley at posted and he said that John Lee Dumas did a podcast every day for 10-15 years and now he’s selling it for probably around 10 million dollars.

Of course it naturally evolved as things do, and he had paid guests to come on his show to pitch their ideas. He also has a website and sells courses.

But it really got me thinking what is the version of me doing that continued her blog 10 years ago and did it every day?

Of course, what is the version of me like who has stuck to everything that I said I’d do or never do again?

I think that version of me would be insanely fit and healthy, happy, joyful and grateful that I stuck to my commitments to myself.

I don’t know if I’m lying to myself to say I’m going to do better but I think I’ll try to keep my integrity to myself and give a little more effort.


Key to Yourself: How to find Yourself

“Key to Yourself” by Venice Bloodworth was suggested to me by a coach of mine a year ago (2021). Since then, I have been studying the words somewhat religiously. I won’t go so far as to say that I have done it everyday. There have been times when I read it every morning but I came to a point where I kept reading the same words over and over again but I felt stuck.

I had been told that this book can change lives and I wanted my inner world to change for the better. I wanted the narrative that was running all day long to be one of positivity, hope and reward, instead of fear, doubt and criticism. Boy did I have a long journey ahead of me.

I’m going to start a series on “Key” as my friend and I affectionately refer to it. I will be going over some of the highlights and passages that have stuck out to me.

Some things to keep in mind: Venice uses passages from the Christian Bible to back up her claims, so this for people who are interested in combining personal development with spiritual scripture.

There are concepts in here that will require radical self responsibility so if you like to play the blame game and are a victim of life, then this is not for you.

The way she talks is in a style of years gone by. The language is more advanced than what we typically see in books today, so bear with me as I try to break it down for you.

How I “unstuck” myself.

I had to come to serious self realizations during my pause from reading “Key” one was a sense of self-worth, self-love and self-confidence. I realized that while I may portray all of those qualities, I did not believe them on the inside. This is was critical in overcoming (and it’s still a work in progress).

Talking to myself in the car and realizing that if I was stranded on an island , I would be enough. That my efforts are worthy, I do not need other people’s approval for validation and that I must believe in myself 100%. No one is going to care about me more than me on the earthly side. Like all the sages say, “it’s an inside job”. This sounds easy to read but I encourage you to start a 30 day cleanse of negative self talk and you don’t need to hype yourself up. This isn’t about being fake and trying to trick yourself into self-love this is coming from the deep down, hard work, that you need to forgive yourself for past mistakes, you need to forgive others and you need to realize that you are more than enough just the way you are.

You might be asking, “if I’m enough then why do I need personal development?” Ah oh wise one, because we are always striving to reach our full potential. We can recognize that we are enough but as Nona Djavid says “be blissfully dissatisfied”, love where you are and then keep reaching towards your highest self. It’s necessary to love where you are today and to recognize the blessings that you have. Once you have truly embodied this concept you are ready to start moving onto the next rung of the proverbial ladder.

After my work on self-love was coming to grips with the idea of dreaming without wanting. It might sound hard to separate the two but I think this is an important step in understanding the work of Venice Bloodworth. You must become okay with the concept that you can dream and build in your mind without attaching the emotion of want.

For instance, let’s say it would be nice to have an Aston Martin in my driveway. I can build this car in my head with the seats the color I like, the inside decked out the way I prefer and I can imagine myself driving in this beautiful car. Notice I did not say want. That’s right! I would like or I would prefer, not I want.

Wanting creates the feeling of separation from what we have currently and what would we like have in the future. This feeling of separation is not a stand alone emotion but has co-emotions that can be toxic to the mind like fear, doubt, guilt and shame.

So let’s avoid those emotions and focus on high vibration emotions like bliss, peace, love, you know, the natural order of Universe? If you don’t believe that the natural order of the Universe is based in love then you can stop reading because as I said above, these teachings go along with the Christian Bible and are based on the fact that love is the all powerful force driving the Laws of the Universe.

We must also remember to let go of the outcome, this has been said by so many people, it hurts me to write this. But, I think that if you have made it this far, you understand that wanting and being attached to the outcome are two sides of the same coin? When we are attached to the outcome, we are also found wanting. Therefore, don’t let one creep in and replace the other.

Build in your mind from a place of peace, love and joy (as corny as that sounds) and let go of wanting (by not using I want language as you build) and let go of the outcome ( you don’t care whether you get it or not).

So, where do we go from here? We start diving into “Key to Yourself”!

Key Take Aways (pun intended)

  1. Work on the concept of self-love, self-worth, and self-confidence
  2. Pay close attention to “want” language when dreaming and building in your mind
  3. Focus on high energy emotions such as bliss, love and peace and let go of fear, doubt, and criticism

Talk soon